The Secret Credit Card

Dear Scott,

I am at my wits’ end. My husband is a spender who leaves me to pay all the bills, including a car loans of $17,000, a mortgage of $239,000, and an ever-spiralling credit card debt -- currently $38,000. Actually that’s not quite right. I have just discovered he has another credit card on which he owes $20,000! Of course I asked him how we can possibly pay this back, but I still have not heard an answer.

Nikki

Hi Nikki,

He’s cheating on you.

Financially, he’s cheating on you.

You haven’t given me enough information on your financial situation, but experience tells me he’s addicted to something -- most likely gambling.

So, I want you to do three things:

First, go to the bank, and put a stop on all the credit cards (ask him if there are any others), and request detailed account statements.

Second, sit down with your husband. Don’t bother asking him how he’s going to pay the money back -- he has no freaking idea -- if he did, he wouldn’t have racked up a $58,000 debt in the first place. Instead, just go through the statements, and work out where he’s spending the money, and why.

Finally, and based on how the chat goes, you should book in to see either a gambling counsellor (1800 858 858) or a financial counsellor (1800 007 007), and definitely a relationship counsellor (1300 364 277).

Scott