Help! A Duffer Got Me Up the Duff

Hi Scott,
 
My partner and I have just found out we are pregnant. We have only been together six months and had our first financial Date Night scheduled for the weekend following the news. It has definitely not been ideal! While I don’t have much in savings, I do have an apartment and a car. He has neither assets nor much in savings: a total of $7,000 in his account and last night he told me he wants to buy himself a bike worth $1,300! I am freaking out about combining my assets with someone who is financially irresponsible, particularly while I am pregnant and then on maternity leave. I know you advocate sharing bank accounts, but are there instances when they should be kept separate?

Narelle
 
Hi Narelle,
 
Congratulations on your news!
 
Now, I don’t know anyone who’s ever been fully prepared for their first child. It’s a shemozzle from the get-go (and then you have another one).
 
You sound like you’re a few financial bases further on from your partner, which is a good thing, but don’t write him off yet.
 
My advice?
 
Do the Barefoot Date Nights, starting next week.
 
The first Date Night gets you to set up a bank account. Here’s where you have your first of many honest conversations. Let him know that you’re not going to share a bank account with him right now, because you need to protect yourself and your baby financially. 
 
Then explain that the way to prove he’s committed is to follow the Barefoot Steps. They’ll not only keep you on the same page, they’ll guide your new little family to financial safety.

Scott.