I’ve Been Conned — by My Parents

Dear Scott,

I feel frustrated, confused and taken advantage of. Back when I was just 22 (I am 28 now), my parents could not pay their mortgage and somehow conned me into taking ownership of their house. They promised me money, tax cuts, all the greatness in the world. Stupidly, I said yes and I now have a $500,000 mortgage under my name. They pay for the loan, though they are frequently late, and Mum loves to withdraw from the equity too. I have tried to get my name off the loan but they keep resisting. Worst of all, because I do not live there, I get shafted at tax time. Is there anything I can do?

Zoe

Hi Zoe,

Oh wow.

I’m only getting your side of the story, but let me try and piece together what’s going on:

It sounds like your parents live beyond their means.

And so, to take the pressure off themselves, they decided to make you their landlord … at least on paper.

At which point that pressure transferred onto your shoulders.

So, what should you do?

Well, don’t lose sight of the fact that the most valuable asset in this situation is the relationship you have with your parents.

So your first step is to blame me, the Barefoot Investor.

Tell your parents that you wrote to me and I suggested that you talk to an accountant (one who doesn’t know your parents). Ask the accountant to review the situation and advise what you should do. They may find you have significant equity in the property and you’re getting a great return. Or they may find it’s a money pit and you’d be better off selling (it’s your house, after all!).

Whatever the decision, I’d let your parents know that this is what the accountant has advised. In other words, blame me, blame the accountant, and try to keep your relationship intact.

Scott.