Barefoot Confessions

Hi Scott,

I am 25 years old, newly married. I am the worst spender I know. I have about $8k debt that my husband doesn't know about.We want to start a family but I'm worried I’ll get stuck as a stay at home mum and be in debt forever. I can’t control my money. I want to pay off my debt and get my finances into order but I don't know where to start. I really need your help.

Jessica

Hi Jessica,

Where do you start?

You’ve already started, by admitting what’s going on in your head. Now you need to share it with someone who can help you -- your husband. The way you’ll get out of this mess is to fess up to the man you married, and tell him what you wrote to me: that you’re worried about being stuck as a stay at home mum, that you’re depressed, and that you self medicate by spending (okay, you didn’t say that -- I did).

The good thing is that you’re fronting up to him with an $8,000 debt. That’s not a lot of dough in the scheme of things. If you work together as a team, you can pay it off by the end of the year.

However, let me give you this warning: if you continue to keep this a secret from your husband, things are going to get a lot worse. Your debts will grow in line with your depression. The truth is that your current financial situation is a symptom of what’s going on in your head.

Luckily for you, you have a bloke that loves you, and wants to help you.

Let him.

Scott