A Total Disaster

Hi Scott

I am a 50-year-old widow with an eight-year-old. After nursing my partner through cancer (he lost his battle on Boxing Day), I have just refinanced my house to consolidate some credit card debt. I have also borrowed an additional $100,000 to invest. My financial planner suggested this as a way of getting my mortgage down. Now I am starting to panic about maybe doing the wrong thing, but I don't see any other way of reducing my debt quickly and setting myself up for retirement. I am really nervous.

Rachel

Hi Rachel,

I’m really sorry for your loss.

Now I don’t know your personal situation, only what you’ve written. So, like everything I write, this is general advice from a guy who doesn’t have a vested interest in flogging you anything.

I’ve had the privilege of working with many widows over the years, and if I was sitting across from you there is absolutely no way I’d advise you to borrow $100k to invest.

Why?

Because your partner just died, and you have a young child. This is not the year to be making major financial decisions. It’s the year to hold on and grieve.

Yet I totally get that you’re clutching for security when your life has been turned upside down.

However, this isn’t the way to do it. The truth is that debt always makes life more complicated. It always makes life more stressful. And heaping on more stress right now is the last thing you need.

You have 20 years (or so) before you retire ‒ so there’s no need to panic. Amazing things can happen when you work diligently towards a commonsense goal, but the first thing to focus on is getting yourself right.

Scott